“Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know before you learned it.”

Maya Angelou

Adele is back like the Queen she is and I’m simply in love with her new song ‘Easy on Me’

Disclaimer: I do not own the rights to this music

From what I read, the song is to her son, explaining the reasoning behind splitting from his dad and asking him for empathy. Kinda sad…in true Adele fashion.

 As with any good song, it usually makes you reflect on personal experiences, and so that’s what I did…of course. The thing about reflection is that it’s not always a pleasant experience, and as I began to reflect, I braced myself.

Here’s a  little bit of that refection……

I have 1 son and 1 daughter. He’s grown now, over 40, a father, grandfather, and son to be proud of. Not perfect, but a good man, a good son, and a good father.

She’s also grown now, a Beautiful human, daughter, wife, and mother.

I remember their struggles and how I contributed to them regardless of my intent not to (parents really are so imperfect). I still sometimes seek their forgiveness in their adulthood. I honestly can’t help it…..I’m their Mama and I love them…..

But what I’m beginning to understand is that it is “me” who is seeking forgiveness….not them. It is not their issue, it is mine, and it is my peace that I’m seeking 💡. So I’ve decided to change my focus on forgiving myself, and for someone who is always in their own head (I promise I’m working on this😊), this has been no easy task.

Parenting is not a science. You hope everyone involves survives, physically, mentally, and otherwise. I’m not sure how many other parents feel they could’ve done better if they knew better (I really hope I’m not the only one🙄), but unfortunately life doesn’t work like that. You live and you learn.

Generational gaps and generational opinions have and will always exists, but we must learn to still listen to one another during this age of “breaking generational curses” and healing (which I absolutely agree with). Our children and grandchildren need all the lessons of love from those in the “village”.

“Go easy on yourself and each other”