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FORGIVING

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“Forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know before you learned it.”

Maya Angelou

Adele is back like the Queen she is and I’m simply in love with her new song ‘Easy on Me’

Disclaimer: I do not own the rights to this music

From what I read, the song is to her son, explaining the reasoning behind splitting from his dad and asking him for empathy. Kinda sad…in true Adele fashion.

 As with any good song, it usually makes you reflect on personal experiences, and so that’s what I did…of course. The thing about reflection is that it’s not always a pleasant experience, and as I began to reflect, I braced myself.

Here’s a  little bit of that refection……

I have 1 son and 1 daughter. He’s grown now, over 40, a father, grandfather, and son to be proud of. Not perfect, but a good man, a good son, and a good father.

She’s also grown now, a Beautiful human, daughter, wife, and mother.

I remember their struggles and how I contributed to them regardless of my intent not to (parents really are so imperfect). I still sometimes seek their forgiveness in their adulthood. I honestly can’t help it…..I’m their Mama and I love them…..

But what I’m beginning to understand is that it is “me” who is seeking forgiveness….not them. It is not their issue, it is mine, and it is my peace that I’m seeking 💡. So I’ve decided to change my focus on forgiving myself, and for someone who is always in their own head (I promise I’m working on this😊), this has been no easy task.

Parenting is not a science. You hope everyone involves survives, physically, mentally, and otherwise. I’m not sure how many other parents feel they could’ve done better if they knew better (I really hope I’m not the only one🙄), but unfortunately life doesn’t work like that. You live and you learn.

Generational gaps and generational opinions have and will always exists, but we must learn to still listen to one another during this age of “breaking generational curses” and healing (which I absolutely agree with). Our children and grandchildren need all the lessons of love from those in the “village”.

“Go easy on yourself and each other”

Me

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They say don’t talk so loud, young ladies shouldn’t raise their voices”. So, I speak quietly when I share my opinion, but….I share my opinions. They say, “be careful how you talk to people and choose your words wisely…”you don’t want to offend anyone”…so, I take extra time gathering my words, but my opinion remains unchanged, for the most part. Maybe it’s not the volume and tone of my voice that offends……maybe it’s my opinion. 

Me!

I had an incident today or maybe the incident just happened to me. The first way just sounds way better……gives me more control over a situation I felt I had no control over. As women, we’re expected to play so many roles, wear so many hats…..yada,yada, yada. But unfortunately, it’s true, and today I felt like all those hats ‘came a tumbling down‘ all at once. I think I had a meltdown…….not a breakdown, but damn close.

 

Observations

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I return to this post often when I need to encourage myself. I’m reposting it to encourage others.

Perseverance is not an easy task right now. 2020 has changed the rules a little, but 2021 will ring in a new administration and hopefully some brighter days. Regardless of what’s ahead….keep pushing forward, and keep working towards your goals. I’m rooting for us!

Although the original post below was from a few years back when my Daughter started her first business Twine and Toil, the same principle still holds true. Her second venture The Meza Collective shows how perseverance, persistence, and dedication to one’s self pays off. 

Reposted May 15, 2019

The post below was written by my daughter during her business’s infancy stage. She’s still learning but her persistence has definitely led to her business taking off.

My Daughters’ Original Post:

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If there is one thing that I’ve noticed about getting a business from infancy to maturity is this one common denominator. Persistence. I’ve seen it time and time again. Just the act of writing even when the only person reading is your mother and the only person buying your hand-made earrings is your best friend. In most cases, this is what separates those who will succeed from those who will fail.

Even though you may only see a business when it has been figured out and blown up in the public eye, the reality is that usually, entrepreneurs have been on the grind for years. To keep going in the face of doubt, fear, exhaustion, restlessness, and uncertainty, may be the only thing keeping you from it. What could you accomplish if the only thing stopping you was…in essence…not continuing to move?